LOL

thanks, Ann. 🙂 I’m sending you those waves right back’atcha.

I’m sorry you were spied on by those who should have just loved you.

I thank you for your wish to help.

Several of your suggestions would get me slaughtered.

I have kept my fb friends, the ones I like independently of the scn connection. I love so many people. I don’t want to drop them when I don’t have to.

I would rather just never do any service again and keep my friends and family than be a big mouthpiece and decry the BS.

If I allow myself backward glances, I feel robbed of the better part of my life. I feel robbed of what else I could have done with these years. But since I’m so happy to be out I don’t waste that time.
But to do things stupidly would be to allow scn to take away people I love. To badly affect my life going forward.

I won’t grant it that ability if I can.

It’s taken enough from me.

Anyone who drops me due to my backing away is not worthy of dismay. They can go. I’ve always cultivated a large circle of family and friends who are not in.

It’s so funny, I’ve been ridiculed, questioned, dismissed for my willingness to go out of my way for all these folks “not on the bridge”. All those times of being made wrong for valuing PEOPLE. (as if, they’re NOT the pool fish from for more scios!) …I ignored the disagreement.

I’ve not been much bothered by other’s opinions.

and now…
I’m out, and I have those people I’ve been a friend to. They’re still in my life and will always continue to be. Even if things hit the fan later and I lose my old scio friends, I’ll have lots.

🙂

secretfornow, that’s great. Do it to your & your loved ones advantage NOT the psychotic cult’s. Good for you!

Even the parents who have left still care very much about their kids.

I see your points, Secretfornow. Good idea to get yourself safe pointed and proofed up so that they can do their worst and it won’t affect you when you come out. Some ideas: defriend all Scns on FB because that’s where they go first to start the Black PR campaign on you. If you have no Scn friends, they don’t know who to go to. Get a job that is not connected to or dependent on Scns in any way. Get your kids and spouse and loved ones same. Start making Non Scn friends. Get all money off account. But most of all, make sure you enlighten your kids, spouse, loved ones on the out tech and horrors of EM and etc and show them references that are being violated and all sorts of stuff — do that well before you plan to come out. And make sure you have them alone with lots of time so you can enlighten them. I never had that luxury with my kids. The church was undercover spying on me for months before I knew about it and were having my own kids spy on me and report in. So had I enlightened them before they started in, I might have them out with me today. And do keep connected to your new group via Mike R’s blog. You have friends here. Good luck to you!

Hi secretfornow, I was reading your post to Cindy and what you wrote as to your decision to be on your path until you decide otherwise really resonated with me.It literally took me years and I blew in 78,to truly look at all the Ron-Aide I had taken in and how the echoes of that time still affect me.
When I toss a flat stone into water and the ripples it makes go all the way to shore and probably back again,I see connections between all things.Coming out of the grip of cos for me is still an ongoing situation.Certain sounds or events can fling up really bad times in SO and yes there were good times too,but the bad can hit hard.What I am learning is to reach out to others and try to realize all I went through has made me stronger.
Since I first found your posts here I have been following them.I want to send you waves of support and love,Always xo

Very smart to make a plan and get things set up before cutting ties. From what I’ve heard enacting this change can be a difficult thing to do. I understand your reluctance to make a statement given your situation. Hoping for the best! Glad you are enjoying your new-found opportunities, and that you are finding comfort and support from us here at Mike Rinder’s.
Best Wishes, T.J.

Thank you Ann B., I say the same about you. You always brighten up this board with your radiant presence. Much love, T.J.