Comments on: “Let Them” Theory

By: Rayfawn

Rayfawn — Fri, 06 Sep 2024 14:34:16 +0000

Thank you Mike. Great advice. It is almost as if you have to reinvent yourself if your network of trust with siblings and family has been broken. I love this writing and actually can relate to it as to what my journey has been.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Mon, 27 May 2024 08:24:21 +0000

Thank you. We cannot control the deeds and intent of others. Some people do not bring joy into our lives. Sage words indeed.

By: Iamfromanywhere

Iamfromanywhere — Sun, 26 May 2024 22:19:33 +0000

One time an old little grandmother said to me: “Let them do”

By: mwesten

mwesten — Sun, 26 May 2024 17:07:37 +0000

It sounds like good advice...but this kind of silky self-help can be used by anyone as a thought stopper, to dismiss legitimate criticism and confirm victimhood biases. Isn't this just a more poetic form of disconnection or am I missing something? I sometimes think people are far too quick to shun, block or cancel people these days. It doesn't bode well for societal cohesion. People operate on different "frequencies" for lack of a better term. You hope for some degree of harmonious alignment with others, but sometimes the disparity is just too damn great. Perhaps expectation is a better word. Maybe all conflicts can be reduced to differing expectations. A good first step would be to examine why that is and whether alignment is possible, either through communication/understanding or mutual behaviour modification. Or both. But then, some people are just cnts. I'm always worried that it's me. Maybe that's a remnant of scientology but even so. That kind of thinking can be humbling. As long as its not exploited.

By: Mary Kahn

Mary Kahn — Sun, 26 May 2024 16:44:39 +0000

Yes. I have realized so much of the truth of this for me, especially if the person(s) I care about don’t want to engage and/or listen.

By: Mary Kahn

Mary Kahn — Sun, 26 May 2024 16:41:15 +0000

In reply to Kate Bornstein. Simply Beautiful. Thanks for posting the link.

By: Suzie

Suzie — Sun, 26 May 2024 14:17:46 +0000

This is great advice. Especially for people who are longing to move on but others keeping them in the place where whey are at.

By: Geoff Levin

Geoff Levin — Sun, 26 May 2024 07:57:58 +0000

Arriving at point is true freedom derived from respect an care fore yourself. At that point disrespect is no longer tolerated. And the quality of the people around you increases exponentially. Thank you Mike.

By: Lili R

Lili R — Sun, 26 May 2024 04:06:34 +0000

This came at a really opportune time.
It is time for me to relax and let them go.
I’ll still talk to them when we all meet up and I’ll be my nice self, but I won’t look to them to fill my bucket of love.
I have supportive people who have chosen me and I them, for talks, hikes, shared meals and hugs. We can fill each other’s buckets of love.
We can stop beating ourselves up because someone we love can’t stop themselves from burning us with their pain.

By: Mike Rinder

Mike Rinder — Sun, 26 May 2024 04:06:12 +0000

In reply to Kate Bornstein. That is wonderful Kate. Thank you for taking the time to make us aware of this poem. It is profound and deeply beautiful.